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I married a person who treated me like slave for almost 10 years .He was involved in many money laundering,and literally spoiled everything. Since we had married in church where God is the judge I told him that I divorce him since he was into many criminal cases..I felt like not only me but kids too were suffering because of his mistakes and blunder.

Then after 10 years he got a brain stroke.i took care of him but he still treated me and kids badly,cursed us and used his right hand to hold our throat and twist hands. I did not get any place to put him since all centres were charging high .Finally I got one place where I was able to admit him.

I remarried since it is not easy to manage 2 kids all alone and I used to feel that I cannot live alone. I and second spouse
just made a vow in front of God prior to that we both said to God that only if it’s your will it should take place otherwise NO. but there were no obstacles and all the disturbance in mind was freed up after our marriage.

I even asked for sign before this event takes place and God showed that sign too. We both are faithful to each other and pray that God be the centre of our marriage.

My 2 kids too accepted my second spouse which was surprising. I had told God if it’s ur will they should agree. After permission from my kids only I remarried. They too desire a father since they really longed for someone to love them like a father.

Legally doing divorce is not an easy task here since society speaks evil behind. But after we both got married, burden and stress that was holding my mind has left.
I believe I need to be faithful to the second covenant made by me to the husband I married since the first husband himself made a ground for separation. As a child of God I don’t want to hurt the one who loves me,care for me and respects me as his wife compared to the first husband who didn’t

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  1. Not knowing anything but the details that you have written here and not knowing anything at all about the legal repercussions of your actions, it is really impossible fore me comment on whether you have done the right thing or not. I also feel that such delicate and sensitive questions such as yours would be better answered by your own spiritual mentor who knows you personally and who understands your personal circumstances.

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