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Our daughter is getting married in May. We should have every reason to be happy. Trouble is, her fiance's family is planning on hosting a big packed wedding with hundreds of guests, not taking COVID into account as an issue. And they are paying for the whole thing. Her fiance's parents have a “my way or they highway” attitude and are impossible to reason with on the matter. Neither of us feel comfortable with this. I am immuno-compromised and the vaccine does not produce many antibodies for me. I had COVID in 2020 and I was in the hospital with pneumonia and could have died. It was the worst experience in my life. My doctor says I can definitely get it again and should avoid getting it at all cost. My husband has heart disease and risks death if he ever gets COVID. He’s lucky he didn’t get it when I did. Because of this, we work from home, get all our groceries delivered, and only socialize with others outdoors or with masks. We are Reformed Jews, as is our rabbi, and we are not even much into the Jewish religion. My husband is not even considered a Jew by orthodox law because his mother had a reformed conversion. Our daughter’s fiance and his family and their rabbi are orthodox. Our daughter became orthodox several years ago. Our rabbi is sympathetic to us, but has tried contacting theirs, the one who is planning on officiating at the wedding, but has not gotten anyone to change their mind and says he can’t do anything more for us. We have asked his parents if we can make a virtual appearance with the help of video technology, in which we could see the wedding from home and there would be a video screen by the Chuppah. But they are not flexible and won’t allow that. We asked them if the wedding can be outdoors, but they won’t do that either. We told them we will have to be no-shows if this is how it’ll be. They realize they cannot force us to be there. But we really don’t want to miss our only daughter’s big day. We just want it to be safe for us.

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If a person was niftar during Adar of a regular year, when does one observe the yohrzeit during the leap year (Adar I or Adar II) ?

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We have a grown, married son who has a penchant for friendship with women while he eschews socialization with men. This disturbed us as he was growing up. We tried back then to steer him toward activities with boys, but he showed no interest. Instead, he enjoyed traditionally feminine hobbies and hanging out with girls. We talked to a psychologist back then who said it was his personality and to let him be. We always thought he would grow out of it. Now he is an adult who lives on his own. He has built for himself a life in which he spends most of his awake hours around women, both professionally and recreational. This has been going on for many years now. All the women he hangs around enjoy his company, even as he is the only man surrounded by dozens of women. They like him because of his charming, delightful personality, kindness toward women, and gregarious nature. A few years ago, he married a fine Jewish woman. We were so overjoyed. We thought that might solve this problem. Instead his wife has helped his cause and finds it endearing that he likes women so much. He is very faithful to her. He just enjoys women for friendship. And with his wife’s blessing, he continues to hang around women and even spends one-on-one time with some female friends. We think it is extremely inappropriate the way he lives. What do you think we as parents can do aside from talking to him directly or consulting with a rabbi around here, since he will not listen to either on this matter?

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Dear Rabbi, why is circumcision performed at eight days old? Why not wait till the child is old enough to choose to have it done because he wants to? Thank you.

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How soon after the death of a brother can I have an aliyah? Also when is the first yahrzeit? Is it the anniversary of his death or the day he was buried?