Interpersonal

Suppose you say or do something to another person that is not technically considered a sin according to Torah law. But the person to whom this was said or done feels offended and is angry. Is this something one must seek forgiveness from the other for, or else they will bear an unforgiven sin?

Thanks for your response :) Unfortunately, I struggle with the mitzvah of shmirat anyim everyday - even though I have seforim and online to help overcome it. This sin is done only between man and God. There is no direct harm a Jew can do upon another Jewish person. However, the sin of lashon hara and rechilut has the potential to harm another Jewish person which is between man and man. Many people don't realize the powerful impact of their words that can " kill " another Jewish soul. My questions here is after the paragraph below and thanks a million for your precious time in reading the entire e-mail For example, a Jewish married man or a group of Jews familiar with a name of a certain Jewish single - they constantly make fun of him behind his back, and degrading his reputation status to the point that either this man committed suicide due to mounting pressure of shame OR speaking badly that resulted in a a long delay of time to get married OR even worse robbed away his happiness by remaining single until the end of his life. 1) How many in the entire Torah pasukim in common that describes such an incident like here - 1 2 or 3 like "Do not murder" and so and so..... 2) Is it a such a harder struggle for many Jews to uphold shmirat halashon more than shmirat anayim? 3) How does Hashem deal with such a person - he loses a chelek in olam haba for "killing" another Jew or what....? 4) And lastly, what is the kapparah a person can do to mechaper the averiah he did? -- but it doesn't do any help to the Jewish soul who cried and missed his lifetime opportunity in finding shared happiness between man and wife. Thanks again and tzche limitzvos

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I did something very bad. For many years, I spoke lashon hara about a friend (who I am referring to here as Friend B), but she doesn’t even know it. What happened was I was telling Friend A negative things about Friend B, who lives in another far away city, all without revealing her name, thinking it was okay because these two people don’t know each other and would never meet. All I was doing was venting. How wrong could I be? Turns out, Friend A is moving to friend B’s city and now they will be neighbors within several blocks and there is a strong chance they will meet each other, given the Jewish community there is small and they have common interests that might lead them to a friendship with each other. And I’m sure once they do meet, it won’t take long for Friend A to figure out the woman she meets is my Friend B. Friend B has no clue I said all these bad things about her to friend A. What should I do now? Should I tell only Friend A, the only one who knows now, that she might soon get to meet Friend B, and to disregard everything I said about her, all while keeping this secret from Friend B, who doesn’t know any bad was spoken about her? Or should I finally reveal to Friend B that I was saying such horrible things about her all these years to Friend A whom she is likely to meet and ask for forgiveness? Just so you know, Friend B is not a bad person. I still love her very much. She just has some issues that have driven me crazy for so long, and I just felt the need to vent to someone. I never imagined that the person I was venting to, keeping her identity secret, might end up meeting her.

The other day, an acquaintance who is an annoying person who I don’t enjoy interacting with, asked me for the address and phone number of a dear friend who is a recent widow so she could send a condolence card. I told this acquaintance I would not give out my friend’s personal info without her permission. My plan was to first ask my friend for permission. But before that happened, the acquaintance became extremely furious at me and feels insulted. I later told my friend (the recent widow) what happened and she said she also considers this woman annoying. She says this woman has caused her lots of trouble in the past and she is glad I didn’t give out her contact info. Since this acquaintance feels insulted by me, am I required to ask her for forgiveness before Yom Kippur? Frankly, she is someone I’d rather not contact at all because she has a habit of bothering people, which I’ve known about for a long time and others apparently have too.

Hi, I was in a restaurant the other day, and a person came up to me and told me I shouldn’t be eating there because it’s not kosher. What chutzpah! Shouldn’t he mind his own business? I was really taken aback.