Sensitive Issue
Question
Before I start I would like to state that my husband and I are very much in love and have been living happily for the last 4 years. As Andrew wife, I love to fulfill everything he could every want, from cooking his favorite foods to things that just live deep in his heart and mind. I am writing for some advice in the second area. I will try to write as modestly as possible, I apologize if some of my question is not so appropriate. I know that everything that is forbidden in the bible has a way of being permissible. My husband has always wanted to fulfill his dreams with me in a loving and permissible manner and I love that and have had not issue with doing that for him. However, we have one that I do not know how or what to do. I have had the same desires, and as a younger unmarried girl only began to experiment, but then stopped to wait until after marriage. Andrew always dreamt of watching me and a second girl “in bed”. He has also dreamt of joining us. We have a very open relationship so, thank G-d, we have talked about this for the last wile and we feel that it is not permissible and therefore have not tried it. My only fear is that if I do not do it for him, in a way that would be somewhat OK, like he would only penitent me (which is all he wants) and release in me, he may feel a need and find two girls on his own. My job as his wife is to fulfill everything he wants in a “kosher” way and I want to, but don’t know if it is. I really have no problem with his desire, but I want to do it in a manner that is permissible. I apologize for the lack in modesty in the question, but I need some guidance. Thank you for your help and a quick response, Sara apeppera@yahoo.com