Dear Rabbi, I sincerely hope the following question does not offend you in any way and I assure you that this is not a joke: Background - I am a non-jewish gay man who once dated a 36 year old orthodox jew...not hasidic, but I believe he would be called 'fromm.' I was surprised at first that he could be orthodox and gay at the same time, as I presumed that being orthodox would not make such allowances. Tired of the superficial dating scene, I also thought that dating an orthodox jew might be more profound...boy, was I wrong. He turned out to be one of the most promiscuous people I have ever met, hitting the bars every week and sleeping around. My question: was he trying to have his cake and eat it, too, by being an active gay orthodox jew? Not to get too graphic, but he claimed that he was in the clear as long as he didn't engage in anal sex - is this true? While I'm curious to hear your anwer to the above, the fact does still remain that, regardless of whether or not this guy was a religious hypocrite, he's still a jerk to my mind in the way he used people. Many thanks in advance, Rabbi.

How come when it rains it pours? When things go wrong with me everything goes wrong. One thing after another.

Hi Rabbi Here is my question. As a frum jew i follow gds commandments. My question is why do the mitzvohs? What's in it for me in keeping 613 mitzvohs and the thousands of difficult dirabanons? Why should i?????????? I have a few answeres but i want the correct answer. Answer One: By doing mitzvohs( following gds rules) on this earth while one is alive, then when that person passes away he will be rewarded by being closer to god and experiencing the(Ziv Hashicaneh). If u do a lot of aveiros u wont get close to the shichenah in the next world. Possible answer number 2. Harav avigdor miller ztl explains, we follow gds commandments because we are eternally greatfull for everything he did and does for us. For example, God performed the 10 makkos on the egyptians only, yetzious mitzrayim. kriyas yam suf, and the fact that as a frum yid im bh healthy functioning today etc etc etc. So therefore, Rabbi Miller Says i should follow gds will because i must be humble to gd. I must to whatever god wants because he is what brought me and sustains me to this point in my amazing life at every second of the minute. GOD says do my commandments, so i do them out of humbleness. 3rd possible answer: gd says do what i tell u and you will be rewarded in the next world. Dont do what i say, and you will be punished in the next world. Thats the deal. 4th answer. Do gds commandments cause you are a slave of god. A slave listens to everything the master says.

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hi. i was wondering why is it a sin 2 make a wedding during a womans period. its not right. what if the woman gets it unexpevtedly?