Dear Rabbi: I have a question...I have been receiving a theraputic massage at my Chiropractors office for years. Its under my insurance....professional and only for therapy...however........now that I have a strong desire to be more observant/shomer mitzvahs I have a bit of a problem and need some advice...the therapist is a woman.....and with the laws of shomer nogia this seems to be a problem..what shall I do? Thanks... Bruce Neal California, USA PS Have a gebenchet a yar.....to you and your family..

Dear Rabbi, A recently (last April) deceased family member is interred in Arizona. Almost the whole extended family, however, lives on the east coast. So that he could be remembered as part of our annual cemetary visitation in Massachusetts (where many relatives, including his parents, are buried) an inscription was added to the back of his parents' stone. Is it proper to say the El molay rachamim and the special kaddish for the graveside even though this is really not our cousin's grave? As it happened, this year we said some psalms and the standard kaddish, but the issue of leaving out the El molay rachamim was "brought up" and I was assigned the task of finding out whether we should recite it in the future despite the fact that the location of its recitation would not truly be at the grave of the deceased. Thank you, and shana tova. Ken Rosenberg

I am having touble with my current job. I work for a very small financial company. It is just myself and the owner. He is not paying me on a regular basis. Sometimes is is up to three months before I get paid. As you can imagin this has put a large straine on my family both emotionally and financially. My husband insists that I get a new job, which I want, but I feel very guilty about leaving my current job. I don't want to cause more problems with my husband, but I am so scared of quitting my current job. Please help me. Thank you

When I make peace with those whom I have offended during this period particularly, does that include children? My grandchildrena re 4 and 8 years old andI have not knowingly offended them, but maybe..... George

If you had zits on your testicals would you pop them with a pair of pliers?