Choice of Embarrassment
Question
I would like some advice how to deal with a situation. I know it is forbidden to embarrass a parent in public. That’s exactly what I’m trying to avoid. My situation is my mother makes false statements about me all the time around our acquaintances and strangers when we’re together (which is almost all the time, since she and I live together and rarely spend any time outside our home apart). She is not intentionally lying or being deceptive. She just has the wrong information and is saying some things inaccurately without realizing.
This puts me in a dilemma. If I correct her around others, it would embarrass her, which would appear disrespectful. But if I fail to correct her, it is me who feels humiliated and takes the hit.
This has been an ongoing struggle. So much of the time, it is nearly impossible to prepare for what she will say in advance. I usually tell her the truth after we’re away from others, but by then, the damage to my reputation has been done.