Difficult Shabbos Guests
Question
This past Shabbos, we had an out of town guest stay with us who is a major celebrity and household name to most Americans, most of who do not even know he is Jewish. I will not mention his name here because it is lashon hora. Before he came, we excitedly told our kids a celebrity was coming over for a Shabbos meal. But once he was here, we saw a different side of him than the public knows: a man who is so eccentric that his behavior is socially unacceptable.
Within minutes after he entered our home, we started to feel uneasy with him because of his mannerisms. After we lit candles, we felt so uncomfortable with him, we wished we could kick him out. But we weren’t sure what to do. Because we were observing Shabbos like we normally do, this didn’t help.
He said he was coming with his wife. Turns out, his wife is a non-orthodox convert to Judaism who might as well be called an antisemite. She sympathizes with Palestinians and thinks the worst about Israel. And she constantly said demeaning things about Orthodox Judaism and Jewish laws and customs we all follow and had the impression that all Jews are rich. She herself was quite the narcissist who expected our place to be a luxury hotel with fine dining. She constantly put us down for not living up to her expectations of being treated like a queen. She was much worse than him.
We are not rich. We are a struggling middle class family we over $30,000 credit card debt. Despite all that, we did our best to please these people and give them the best. They thanked us by making our Shabbos a nightmare.
They did not follow the laws of Shabbos. They turned the light in the room we gave them on and off, took hot showers, and talked on their phones a lot. This was not unexpected. They are not observant Jews after all.
In the future, what is a good approach to deal with Shabbos guests who are like this? Should we ask them to leave during Shabbos and drive their car away from our house?